Since day 2 of the antibiotic she has been a TOTAL SWEETHEART! I don't know if the virus and ear infection were the root of the problem or just an added aggravation to her Terrible Twos, but......hey, I've been just floating on air with her wonderfully sweet, helpful attitude!! She "put me to bed" last night, told me, "Here, Mommy, lie down." and proceeded to stroke my hair and kiss me and sing, "Niiiight-niiight, Wuver." :D
It's amazing, the transformation! I don't know if this is going to be a lasting thing or not......but I sure am enjoying her right now. Oh, also---where she was running away, screaming, "No, no, no!" when she got hurt, now she either picks herself up quietly with a whispered, "Bonk" or she cries, and comes to me with gentle hugs and pats, saying, "Iss ok, 's ok" until it's over. SUCH a difference from before! The screaming has become history---and will hopefully remain that way.
We've also started being more careful about telling her we forgive her. We instruct her to say, "I'm sorry, Mommy" (or Daddy) after disobeying, and then tell her "I forgive you, Violet." and promptly move on to something cheerful. It has been amazing to see her attitude change from that......she seems just--relieved!
Anyhow....thanks for y'all's comments and letters. Shared experiences and advice---and compassion are much appreciated here!